Why Japanese is hard

There is a common misconception that learning Japanese is hard. Do you know why Japanese is hard? It’s because the way Japanese is taught makes it so! Here are a few of my gripes; hopefully this will keep you from making the same mistakes I did.

The writing system

Everyone knows this problem: you don’t start learning kanji until very late into your education. Some textbooks don’t even start off using hiragana or katakana, instead relying on almost unintelligible romaji transcriptions. This inevitably slows learners down, as they later have to catch up on learning the new scripts *while at the same time* taking in increasingly more difficult vocabulary and grammar.

I get it. Japanese is completely different from most other languages, and teachers don’t want to overwhelm their students. They start you off easy, get you used to the sounds and flow of the language. Only then do they let you start learning how to read and write… Maybe I’m cynical, but I think this is based on the false premise that learners of Japanese are too stupid to handle everything at once.

Unimpressed cat wants to prove Japanese isn't hard
Hmph.

I’ve met so many people who have lived in Japan for years but never bothered to learn the writing system. Imagine, spending a decade living somewhere where you can’t even read anything! If you’ve only learned things through basic conversation, of course you would think learning Japanese is hard.

I was fortunate enough to have a very strict Japanese teacher in university. She pushed us to learn hiragana and katakana in just a week, then threw us right into kanji. She knew we could handle it, and it definitely helped us in the long run.

Contrast that with what I’ve found to be a favorite textbook here in Japan: Minna no Nihongo, Romaji version.

Do yourself a favor and just skip anything with romaji. Please.

Let me give you an example why kanji helps. Some of the first kanji you learn are 日, meaning day, and 休, meaning rest. Even if you’ve never seen the word 休日 before, you can probably guess that it means a day off. If you’ve only studied Japanese through romaji, however, you’d have no way of connecting the sound kyuujitsu with its meaning, especially since jitsu is a relatively uncommon way to read the character 日.

When I don’t know the word for something, I string together kanji that are close in meaning to what I want, and you know what? A lot of the times I’m right. Sure, learning kanji might be hard, but not learning kanji is harder.


Verb forms

In my early Japanese classes, I very much disliked the way they introduced formal and informal language. Many textbooks start you off learning the -です/ます verb forms because it’s considered the polite way of speaking, and “if you’re ever going to visit Japan, you need to be able to speak politely.”

While I understand the intent… If you’re at such a beginner level, literally no one will hold it against you if you don’t speak “politely”. Even after achieving fluency, a slip-up in formality will very rarely be held against a non-native speaker.

There are also so many levels of formal speaking that learning just one form won’t get you very far. In fact, I would say -です/ます is the verb form I use least now. It’s too formal for your friends and too casual for your boss, leaving very little occasion for use.

The next form our textbook taught us was the -て form, which instantly threw me into a world of confusion. I didn’t understand what this form was for and I couldn’t remember how to conjugate the verbs properly. The reason I struggled so much? Only after we had learned the -て form did we FINALLY move on to plain form! Aka, the base form of a verb that you need to know in order to conjugate it. Imagine how frustrated I was, to struggle through memorizing a bunch of new verbs and their forms and to later find out there was actually logic behind it. I basically had to relearn all the verbs we had already covered.

Sad puppy thought Japanese is hard
All that wasted time…

How you SHOULD learn

There are pros and cons to every method of learning a language. As someone with experience with many different styles of textbooks, university classes, and self-learning, let me give you some advice.

Spend your first few days or weeks (however long it takes) just memorizing the basic hiragana and katakana scripts. Or, if you want, skip katakana until later since it’s not used as much anyway. Don’t even bother learning actual words; just practice how to write and pronounce everything.

Once you’re comfortable, move on to learning basic vocabulary and phrases. Learn the hiragana AND kanji together. Trust me, the early kanji are not difficult at all; if a Japanese first grader can do it, so can you! The sooner you get kanji into your head the better because there’s just so many of them. In addition, having a lot of kanji under your belt will enable you to guess the meanings of new words. Your reading level will skyrocket.

From there you can try simple sentence construction. As far as verbs go, focus on their plain form from the very start! Then move on to -て form, since it’s needed to conjugate verbs and allows you to form longer sentences. Other verb forms won’t be too hard to figure out once you’ve got these basics down.


Getting past the basics

Studious owl doesn't think Japanese is hard
Time to hit the books.

The rest of your language learning will depend on your individual learning style, which is why it’s hard to give advice that will work for everyone.

The best form of studying for you will ultimately depend on your goals. For example, if you are learning Japanese for fun, you don’t have to bother learning how to write kanji by hand. If you plan to study or live in Japan at some point, you definitely should spend some time learning how to write; it helps with memorization and you’ll notice the subtle differences between similar kanji, which is crucial for passing the JLPT. But I wouldn’t make it a focus—we all use computers nowadays, after all.

If you’re curious about how I learned Japanese, or are currently having difficulties mastering a certain concept, please contact me! I am more than happy to help a fellow Japanese learner. Better yet, leave a comment so other readers can learn too.

Figure out your motivation for learning the language, form some concrete goals for yourself in the four basic skills (reading, writing, listening, speaking), and get to practicing as much as possible. And don’t forget to make it fun!

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Going to the doctor in Japan

Although I’ve heard Japan’s healthcare system isn’t the best, to an American, it’s amazing. It’s no secret that the US has one of the highest healthcare costs in the world. Even with insurance (which I currently don’t have there), I’m hesitant of going to the doctor unless absolutely necessary.

Imagine my pleasant surprise coming to Japan. Sure, the monthly insurance cuts out of my paycheck hurt, but I am happy to pay them because it means I never have to worry about getting sick and not being able to afford care. While I do have my complaints about doctors in Japan, I would never dream of trading this healthcare system for the American one.


Health insurance: pros and cons

As you probably already know, health insurance is mandatory in Japan. Anything covered by your plan will cost you just 30% of the actual price—for minor stuff, that usually ends up being a couple hundred yen (just a few dollars!). All you Brits can scoff, but this is enough to bring tears of joy to an American…

This does come with its drawbacks. For example, dentists insist on keeping visits short and having you come back multiple times; apparently, the National Health Insurance plan only pays them for the first half hour of every appointment. I recently went to the dentist here for the first time and was shocked when they told me I was finished after 15 minutes. “You’re joking. You only cleaned like five teeth?!” But before I could say anything, they were already done scheduling my next visit. I ended up going back two more times. For a single dental cleaning.

Dentist
Smile.

I also visit the doctor for a prescription I take regularly. Every visit they charge me an “examination fee,” even though the doctor barely glances at me before sending me on my way. The way they get me to keep coming back? Refuse to give me more than two months’ worth of medication per visit. It’s extremely frustrating.

Finally, do keep in mind that the National Health Insurance plan only covers the bare minimum. If you need something more than just basic checkups and medication, you’ll have to pay that out of pocket. You can, of course, sign up for insurance plans in addition to NHI, but in most cases I wouldn’t recommend it. (Private insurance in Japan is a joke.)


Going to the doctor: where and how

Google Translate is your friend.

Finding a doctor while in Japan may be quite different from what you’re used to. Something I only learned after several years in Japan is that you have the choice between either large, general hospitals or small, specialized clinics. If you know what kind of specialist you need, look for a clinic since they’re far more common and more likely to fit your specific needs. Save hospital visits for general checkups or emergencies (sounds oxymoronic, but there you go…).

Once you find a place, make an appointment online or find out if they take walk-ins (many don’t for first-time visits). When you come in, just tell the receptionist “初めてですが…” and hand them your health insurance card. They will give you a medical history questionnaire to fill out and turn in while you wait. Eventually they’ll call you in to talk with either a nurse, who will explain your situation to the doctor, or the doctor himself (in Japan, statistically, it’s a man). Many doctors, especially younger ones, have basic English proficiency; don’t worry if you’re not sure how to explain difficult medical terms in Japanese. It’s still best, though, to google English-speaking doctors if you’re not confident. They’ll ask you some questions, maybe run some tests, and then send you back out to the waiting room.

Going to the doctor
Don’t worry, you won’t wait too long.

Eventually they will call your name again to go pay your balance. You’ll also get a shiny new “membership” card they use to easily access your medical records when you come back. Remember to bring it with you next time! (Don’t worry, it’s okay if you forget.) On a side note, the examination fee is lower for return visits; once you find a doctor you like, stick with them.


Prescriptions

What about prescriptions? If that office has the medication in stock, they will let you purchase it directly from them. Otherwise, they will give you a prescription to take to a pharmacy instead. More often than not, you will find pharmacies conveniently near clinics; just keep an eye out for any 薬局 that fill 処方箋 (prescriptions).

Once there, you just hand them your prescription and insurance card, wait for them to prepare everything, and pay. They will probably give you a book, called a 薬手帳, where they keep note of all your medications. It’s supposed to help them avoid possible interactions between your medications or alert them of any allergies, but presenting your little book may also help lower your bill! If you have a repeating prescription and come back within six months, the administration fee may get lowered by a few yen. (It’s not a huge discount, but I’ll take what I can get.)

Prescription book
Some of the prescription books can be quite cute.
Typical Japan.

That’s all you really need to know. You may feel intimidated by the thought of going to the doctor in a foreign country, but don’t worry: as usual, Japan makes it a relatively smooth and orderly process.

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Getting a haircut in Japan

One of the last things I did before hopping on my flight to Japan was get a haircut. Part of the reason was that I didn’t want to go through the hassle of looking up salons and figuring out how to communicate with the stylists with my very basic Japanese. The other reason may have been a bit racist of me: I thought that because almost all Japanese people have straight hair, no one would know how to handle my very curly, non-Asian hair.

In reality, perms have steadily grown in popularity in Japan. Nowadays, almost half the people you meet have some kind of wave to their hair. A small percentage of Japanese people do actually have natural curls (my husband included)! Yet despite this, I have never had a truly satisfying haircut in Japan. I’ll go over a few of these experiences so perhaps other fellow curly-haired people can learn from my mistakes. Or just enjoy reading about my misfortune, take your pick.

Curly-haired American in a Japanese forest in need of a haircut
I definitely wait too long for haircuts.

First haircut: not bad

A couple months after arriving, I asked my coworkers if they knew any good haircut places where I can get by with English. I got a recommendation for a salon in Osaka run by a guy who had studied in California. Great, I thought, someone who speaks English AND has experience abroad! I made an appointment for the weekend, excited by my luck.

The guy was nice and talkative, and he offered coupons for first-time customers—for me, a free head massage. After getting my hair washed, I was treated to a delightful 15 minutes of relaxation. During that time, however, my hair had gotten fairly knotted up and dry; brushing it out was an absolute nightmare. So much tangling. So much frizz. “Does your hair… always do this?” he asked nervously. Maybe he really didn’t have as much experience with curly hair as I had thought… I didn’t actually say that because I’m not that mean, and the haircut itself ended up passable. So I left with a smile on my face and a thank you for his work.


Haircut, take two: fail

The next time I was in need of a haircut in Japan, I was a grad student in a new city and a tight wallet, but my Japanese had gotten good enough to be able to google salons on my own. I picked the cheapest place that was near me (because who wants to pay $80 for a simple trim?) and headed over on a weekday afternoon.

The stylist was a very friendly woman who took an interest in my life story (aka the usual “why did you come to Japan?” barrage of questions). She first sat me down and then did something I had never had a stylist try to do to me before: brush out my hair before washing it. Anyone with curly hair would shudder at the thought. “You’re… going to brush me first?” She smiled and replied with a bright, “Yes, of course!” I was so overcome with shock that I didn’t say anything. I was trying to trust her expertise. Maybe that’s just how haircuts are done in Japan, I thought weakly, averting my gaze.

And then I looked in the mirror and got all my fears confirmed. I kid you not, I looked like a lion who had just awoken from his nap. I had never seen my hair expand to such size before. The stylist also had a terrified look come over her when she saw what she had done—I don’t know if she just hadn’t noticed anything while she was brushing, or if she had been too embarrassed by her mistake to stop halfway through, but the look on her face was priceless. “L-let’s wash your hair now…” And she led me over to the basins to see if she could tame this beast she had created.

Haircut in Japan turned me into a lion
Stunning beauty. Rawr.

Haircut, part three: success?!

From then on, I vowed never to get a haircut in Japan again. “I go home once or twice a year… I’ll just do it then…” I thought naïvely. Eventually it got to the point that my hair had reached unmanageable lengths, so I gave up. I broke my oath and begrudgingly searched for somewhere decent that wouldn’t break the bank.

This time I was determined not to let this end in tragedy. I was firm with the stylist when she took out the brush. “Trust me, you definitely don’t want to do that dry.” (Seriously, why is this a thing here??) She begrudgingly allowed me to get my hair washed first.

The rest of the haircut went really well—until the very end when she started to blow-dry. After about a minute I told her that was enough, as I usually just air-dry my hair. She looked at me with horror. “But…! You’ll catch a cold…!” Seriously? Well, maybe she just didn’t consider wet hair a properly finished job, but my hair does not play well with blow-driers. (Picture a younger lion with bedhead.) Despite my protests, she did her best to remove any trace of moisture from my hair, and I again walked out in sullen defeat.


In conclusion

I don’t know if my hair is just impossible to manage, or if there really is some truth to my initial apprehensions of getting a haircut in a foreign country. Here’s the moral of the story. Getting a haircut in Japan means brushing, and often even cutting, your hair dry. You can’t refuse a blow-dry. And unless you’re particularly vocal about what you want, your hair stylist will not know what to do with your hair.

Anyway, I hope my curly-haired brethren have better luck out there than I have getting a haircut in Japan. Be sure to subscribe so you’ll get notified the next time I have an awkward experience, hair-related or otherwise.

Culture shocks

Considering the two countries are on opposite sides of the Earth, an American like me is sure to find many differences upon moving to Japan. It’s always funny, though, when Japanese people ask me about culture shocks. They assume I would have problems with things that actually never bothered me (or most other foreigners) in the first place.

“Was it hard getting used to chopsticks?” I’ve been using them regularly since I was eight, so no.

“It must be weird for you to take off your shoes indoors.” I have never worn shoes in the house in my life, and it’s much more hygienic this way!

“Can you eat natto?” Dude, have you ever eaten blue cheese? (I honestly can’t understand why people find natto repulsive when there are so many other foods with weirder tastes, smells, and textures…)

Anyway, the real culture shocks I’ve experienced are quite mundane, making them all the more surprising.


Smoking culture shock
“タバコ,お吸いになりますか?”

Restaurants

Something that I noticed on my first night was how restaurants still had smoking sections. Many aren’t separated at all, and even when they are, the smoke tends to spread throughout the restaurant anyway. I hadn’t seen someone smoke indoors since the 90s, yet here it was, still seen as a completely normal thing. (With the new legislation introduced for the Olympics, it is slowly starting to be phased out… Hopefully…) Needless to say, I very quickly picked up the kanji for “no smoking” (禁煙).


Adults playing games culture shock
“最初はグー…”

We’re all adults here… right?

A really funny culture shock I had was the first time I saw fully-grown, 100% adult office workers playing rock-paper-scissors in public. I had almost forgotten the existence of that game, having been so long since I last played it. Now I see adults here playing it all the time! It turns out that it’s used a lot whenever people don’t want to make a decision. A bunch of friends get together for a movie? The winner gets to choose what to watch. Only one piece of fried chicken left on the table? Rock-paper-scissors to find out who gets it. I also like how the Japanese version has a built-in tie-breaker: just “あいこでしょ” until there’s a winner.


Washing hands culture shock
Lather, rinse, repeat.

Personal hygiene

One difference that continues to bother me on a near-daily basis is the lack of soap in public bathrooms. And everyone always says, “Japan is so clean!” I’m not saying no one ever washes their hands, but even when I worked in Japanese offices and despite having spent a significant amount of time shirking work by hiding in the bathroom, there was only one or two occasions where I ever saw someone use soap, let alone properly lather and rinse… My jobs have also all been in the medical field. They should know how germs work. Theoretically.


Fruit culture shock
To peel or not to peel?

And the prize for biggest culture shock goes to…

By far, the most memorable moment of culture shock I’ve had in Japan is… also probably the dullest one.

So, some people like to cut off the skin from their apples or peaches, while some leave them on. It’s all preference, right? I personally eat most things with the skin on because my mom always said it was nutritious (I’m actually just way too lazy to peel things). When I got to Japan, I was somewhat surprised to find that no one leaves the skin on anything. During a business trip abroad, my coworker literally said this about getting an apple on the plane for lunch: “It wasn’t even cut up or anything. I looked around and saw people biting chunks out of their apple, skin and all! Like animals!”

It’s not just fruits though. People here peel all kinds of vegetables—potatoes, carrots, asparagus—and rarely eat the skin on fish. The one example that really got me was when we visited my husband’s grandparents for the first time. Their prefecture is known for fruit, so they had bought us a bunch of expensive delicacies (see: fruit prices in Japan) to enjoy together. Out came the grapes. Right as I was about to pop one in my mouth, I hear a gasp—and look around to see everyone staring in horror at me as they all peeled their grapes.

I had no idea at the time, but it turns out that some Japanese grape varieties are bigger and sweeter than the ones I was used to, with a tough outer skin that you are supposed to peel away before eating.


Sometimes, it’s the little mundane surprises during our time abroad that stick out the most. What kind of culture shocks have you had in Japan?

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